Something I’ve noticed that humans tend to do (including myself) is procrastinating, even worse than that we sometimes look for something to blame for said procrastination. We blame our childhood trauma, co-workers, lack of finances, bad head spaces, and difficulties for our problems but how often do we take personal responsibility? I’m not saying that none of these are legitimate factors or hindrances in our lives, but I am saying that more often than not, YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS HOLDING YOURSELF BACK!
If you listened to my podcast the other day you know I broke my ankle. If not, SPOILER ALERT! It sounds like a small injury and maybe like it’s not that big of a deal, but it is life-altering. Not only has it changed the way I walk (literally), but it has changed the way I view time, it has changed my perspective and my motivation for life. I’ve spent days laid up without the ability to get up and do what I want WHEN I want and oftentimes having to rely on others for help.
After a certain point in recovery, I got tired of waiting on everyone else to do things for me and started finding ways to do what needed to be done. Don't get me wrong, I have a great support system but people have their own lives and I feel bad pulling them away at times. The point is, I had to position myself mentally to start getting my life back.
After the fogginess of the initial break and the aftermath of surgery, I started preparing my mind to get back in the game and make things happen for myself. I had to position myself mentally to start getting my life back. Even as I write this, I am still unable to walk alone on my own 2 feet. I am using crutches to get around and periodically standing to try and put pressure on my broken leg to strengthen it. But I’m not allowing that to stop me. I get up every day and speak to my body, telling it to be healed, telling it to gain strength, telling it to keep holding on. I do my skincare routine, relentlessly, have morning devotion and spend time in the presence of God, put some makeup on, and try to feel good about myself from the inside out. Some days are easier than others, but on the days that I feel bad, I remind myself that I won’t be there forever and after the tears dry and the smoke clears I am sure to put myself back on track. Our strength is not determined by avoiding the fall, it is determined by the number of times we get back up when we fall.
Speak LIFE to yourself and your circumstance.
On the days you feel your worst, stay connected to people who make you feel your best.
Lay the pressure down: This may be through prayer, journaling, or worshiping. Either way, you’ve got to get it out of your system and into the hands of God.
Take life in stride. Not every day is going to be successful or productive, celebrate anyway. You accomplished something, even if that was making it through the day.
Be kind to yourself, don’t be so mean. You are a beautiful human being — flaws and all. Celebrate your accomplishments and how far you’ve come. You’re making someone proud!
Life is truly not a destination, you are never going to have everything figured out, and you are going to be working on yourself until the day that you die, but as I said the other day, don’t get comfortable being uncomfortable…You have the power to speak life into your business, finances, family, body, mind, relationships, and any other area in which you see the struggle. You have the power to turn your life around.
You are stronger than you think and more capable than you know. Try out one of the tools I gave you today, I hope it blesses you. Remember, whether you’re working, taking it easy, or doing absolutely NOTHING, your day is in your hands.
XOXO,
Farrah LaRaé